Living Life Without Regrets

I don’t have a lot of regrets in my life. If forced to name them, I have a list of three to choose from, but people laughed at me the one time I talked about how I forever regret choosing to study for my constitutional law exam instead of attending my very first Brad Paisley concert, so I have become less open about sharing my life regrets, as shallow as they may be.

In having so little regrets, it helps that I’m generally content with where I am in my life. But I also take to heart the saying that there’s very little point in dwelling on the past because what’s done is done and time and energy are far better spent thinking about what do in the present for the future. If I were to add a corollary to this cliché, it would be that even if one can take back a moment from the past, the alternative path that would be chosen may very well lead to another regret.

Carpe diem, as the old Latin phrase goes, and I suppose there is some truth in the belief that in order to avoid having regrets in the future, I have to make the most out of the present. Whatever may become my regrets as I continue to live my life, I’m fairly certain that the regret of having wasted time away would feel the most empty of all the regrets.


Two Life Lessons From Failure of Johannes Kepler

We have all been told the cliché at some point in our lives that “there are no stupid questions,” but, as Kepler showed, there are wrong ones. It was nonsensical for Kepler to ask why there are six planets, because we now know that there are, in fact, more than six planets. The brilliant answer Kepler came up with was wholly off base because the question he asked to begin the inquiry was the wrong question to be asking in the first place.

Such misconception isn’t limited to history. Even in the modern era, very smart people are unable to ask the right questions, and as a result, leads the debate astray. In my profession, there are those who are unable to distinguish the “should” from the “could”, even though lawyers, more than any others, should understand the difference.


Music and My Life Moments

My life consists of obsessions and it’s no different with music.  When I buy new music, I listen to it over and over (and over and over) again until it is playing in my head and driving me insane.  I then find the next music to obsess about.   Because of this, many of the songs I listen to bring back a particular memory–fond and not so fond–of different moments of my life.


Why I Admire Josh Hamilton Despite (Because of) His Latest Relapse

When I heard that Texas Rangers’ outfielder Josh Hamilton relapsed with alcohol again, I felt an indescribable mix of awe, sadness, courage, inspiration and strength.  Hamilton epitomizes the best and worst of human beings, the amazing things we are capable of but also the depths to which we can sink.  When I look at Hamilton, I see a perfectly imperfect man.


Doing Right

I have a friend who believes he’s right about everything and who’s not afraid to tell people as such. He once told me that everywhere he goes, there are people who can’t stand him, and I suspect he’s perfectly fine with that. My grandfather has lived his entire life like my friend. For these people, there are only friends and enemies–and only right and wrong.

Living like that could be extraordinarily lonely. Yes, friends of these people are fiercely loyal, but such friends are few and far in between. They may very well argue that that’s both exactly the point–they know, after all, that their friends are real–and besides the point–they are not deciding how to live their lives on how many friends they can make. But to follow through on convictions like that–friends and consequences be damned–requires a lot of strength.


Shoot for the Stars To Hit the Stars

The lesson he shared was that I should set my goal as high as possible so that even if I fail, I would have still achieved something.  He summarized this in one phrase, “Shoot for the stars so that even if you miss, you’ll hit the moon.”  In case I was too dense to understand his infinite wisdom, he even drew a picture of a star and a moon with an arrow launching me from the earth to the moon.

I’ve seen this phrase in yearbooks and other places where you write words of wisdom, but I remember thinking, while sitting through the interview, that this guy is an unsalvageable idiot and so are the people who think these are words to live by.  

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