(English Only) Tristan, As I attended the ceremony celebrating your matrimony with Becca, I thought about our friendship–about how it all began, how it deepened over the years and how it’s thrived on our many differences. I remember your joking once that I’m the first Republican you’d ever met, and
Congratulations, my friend, for finding in Kris-Stella someone who not only shares your values in making a lasting impact in this world, but someone who can also be right there with you in that ever-important journey.
I wish you and Kris-Stella a life full of happiness and achievement, not just for your sake, but for the sake of the rest of us.
After seven and a half years at the firm, this is my last week at Shearman & Sterling. It’s been an amazing run.
When I look back on my time at the firm, I realize how tremendously blessed I’ve been.
In the headline making deals that my friends and family recognized, I’ve been blessed with a sense of accomplishment.
In the nearly sixty matters I’ve worked on spanning Capital Markets, M&A, Asset Management and even Litigation, I’ve been blessed with the experience I’ve gained.
In the access to the firm’s global knowledge and vast resources, I’ve been blessed with the support system that made my job incalculably easier.
In the two luxury watches I never dreamed I’d be able to afford, I’ve been blessed financially.
But above all, I’ve been blessed with the people I’ve worked with.
Dear Entitled Eagles,
Despite attending a prestigious university called Boston College, there are certain things that you are not entitled to.
First, you’re not entitled to any particular grade. Certainly not an A or a B, or even a C+.
Grades measure your knowledge and abilities, however imperfectly. If you exhibit superior capabilities, you get high marks. If you exhibit deficiencies, you get low marks.
I am opinionated about a whole range of topics with little knowledge on a very small number of things.
The result of this less-than-ideal combination of personality and intellectual (in)capacity is that I have a tendency to mock, rather loudly and proudly, things I don’t understand.
One of the things I remain mystified about is why no one has ever asked me to give a lecture. I would have thought that a person like me with an opinion on a whole range of topics would be hounded to share just a small portion of all the invaluable insight.
The only explanation I have for this perplexing omission is that people, out of due consideration, have been hesitant to ask me to take the time out of my busy schedule to prepare and give a speech, or worse, was afraid that I would charge Hillary Clinton-like fees to provide my thoughts, including demands for hotel and limousine accommodations.
I write this post to assuage those concerns and announce that I am fully ready, willing and able to give numerous lectures, without any form of compensation or benefits, monetary or otherwise.
Why a friendship was formed may often be amorphous, but there is one certainty about the how: you can only become friends with people you know. And that means that now, and for only the next few years while you are in college, you have the once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to become friends with the most unexpected people.
It’s just a fact of life that after graduation, the people you’ll become friends with are those with whom you share something significant. If you become a doctor, most of your friends will probably be doctors, nurses and others who are in the healthcare profession. If you proceed to graduate school in philosophy, you’ll probably become close with other philosophers who’ll understand your Satre-like pontification on the meaning of grass. If you end up as a wine connoisseur, you’ll likely find that you’re spending much of your free time with other wine snobs.
The friends you make in college needn’t be so obvious and predictable, for in college, you are surrounded with people who are different from who you are and who you will become. This, of course, is the by-product of an academic institution’s conscious effort to make the student body as diverse as possible. It’s highly unlikely that you’ll find anything remotely similar at places you’ll be after graduation, when you’ll be in an environment that is likely to be, either unconsciously or deliberately, homogenous in skill, personality or thinking.